Why Disclosing Differences Can Be a Good Idea
For many, sharing personal differences—be it a diagnosis, unique trait, or aspect of identity—can feel daunting. The PEERS® program acknowledges that disclosing such differences is a deeply personal choice, yet it can often foster understanding, authenticity, and meaningful connections.
The Benefits of Disclosing
Here are some of the possible benefits of disclosing your diagnosis or difference to others:
Promotes Understanding
Sharing your differences helps others understand you better, reducing misunderstandings and encouraging acceptance. For instance, explaining a challenge like sensitivity to noise can help others modify their behaviour to create a more inclusive environment.
Shapes How Others Perceive You
When you openly disclose a difference, you take control of how it’s presented. By explaining it in your own words, you can highlight its impact and show how you manage it effectively. This can transform a potential barrier into a relatable part of your story.
Builds Authentic Relationships
Being open about differences can attract people who value you for who you truly are. Authenticity fosters more profound, genuine relationships and signals trust to those around you.
Turns Challenges Into Strengths
You can showcase how they enhance your abilities by reframing differences as strengths. For example, someone who thinks differently may excel in problem-solving or creativity, valuable traits in friendships and collaborations.
When and How to Disclose
Timing and context matter when deciding to disclose differences. The PEERS® program outlines a thoughtful, step-by-step approach:
Choose the Right Time and Place: Wait for a moment when you and the other person can have a calm, private conversation.
Acknowledge the Difference: Start with a simple, non-confrontational statement like, “I’m not sure if you’ve noticed...”
Explain the Difference: Share what the difference is and its relevance. For example, “I have ADHD, which means I sometimes need to move around a lot.”
Highlight Strengths: Follow up with a positive aspect of your difference. For instance, “On the positive side, it helps me stay energetic and creative.”
Show How It Benefits Relationships: End by emphasising how this trait might make you a better friend, such as being an excellent problem-solver.
Navigating the Risks
While disclosure can be empowering, considering potential risks, such as judgment or misunderstanding, is essential. To mitigate this:
Stay positive in your tone and outlook.
Be prepared for questions and respond calmly.
Remember, disclosure is a choice—it’s okay not to share if you feel uncomfortable.
Empowering Yourself Through Disclosure
The PEERS® program emphasises that how you see yourself influences how others treat you. When you embrace your differences confidently, you set the tone for others to do the same. Believing in yourself teaches people to believe in you, and framing your differences positively makes them more likely to respond in kind.
Disclosing differences isn’t about masking or changing who you are—inviting others to understand and connect with your authentic self. Thoughtfully sharing can pave the way for stronger, more supportive relationships.
If you or someone you know is navigating social challenges, Strivesocial is here to help. Learn more about how our PEERS®-based coaching can empower individuals to communicate confidently and connect.
